“One thing that I got from using Hinge is that it is truly a dating app that is meant to be deleted.”
In this podcast, I discuss my journey on dating apps and the reason why I have officially decided to retire from them.
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Hey Tran, do you think that dating app fatigue has increased due to COVID-19? For me when I was still on dating apps, it felt like the only way to meet people. How do you feel about it? I was also wondering if while being on dating apps, you changed the way you presented yourself on there as well. Because for me it definitely did
Nice podcast! I think the ‘commodification effect’ that you mention is key to the perniciousness of dating apps. I actually wonder whether that has had some kind of knock-on effect on our generation’s outlook on dating more generally, and I think it could be interesting to look into whether more people are foregoing deeper romantic connections to focus on instantly-gratifying casual encounters. From my standpoint it almost seems like the entire ‘meta’ of dating has changed even for those like myself who aren’t as experienced with the dating app ecosystem, and I see way less interest in settling-down among my peers. What are your thoughts on this?
Fun podcast! Its nice to hear a story-like version of a podcast every once in a while, it pulls you in and makes it feel personal (plus I’m a big fan of the wii music). As someone who has met her current partner on Tinder, i understand the feeling of having to censor yourself and not really telling people why or how you’ve met the other person. And i also agree that online dating is a huge plus in the Queer community! I would love for online dating to be de- stigmatized a little bit, not only to make it a little less dreadful and to have a larger dating pool, but people dont have to doom-scroll on people….